A mate who throws their clothes on the floor may not have bothered you when you first met, but when it starts to become an issue, it is likely that the issue is more than just about clothes.

In radio, a good program director knows that there are 15 to 25 key things that must be done immediately to turn a station’s fate around.  No time to waste.  They do these things first and fast.

Once these things are implemented, the program directors then turn to the larger tasks of building a morning show, creating contests, doing outside promotion and finding ways to attract audiences from competitors.

Marriage is not much different than turning around a radio station.

Unfortunately, in relationships couples often play from a weak hand instead of a bounty of already established strengths.  They try to become what they are not instead of returning to what made the other person fall in love with them in the first place.  This can lead to relationship disaster.

A recent Wall Street Journal article called “Spouse, Change Thyself” seemed to me to be the wrong direction.  Trying to be what you are not is a dangerous way to build a lasting relationship.  Change can occur, but not as a prerequisite for continuing the relationship.

Both partners should make a list of all the things that they think their partner liked (or loved) about them when they first met and assure that they do these things as often as possible.  First and fast.

Real change focused on more difficult issues tend to be realized when both parties are displaying more of their best qualities rather than struggling to be something that they may never be.

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