Most of my music business college student performers deal with forms of stage fright and imposter syndrome.  Even highly successful people can struggle with confidence and anxiety.

In 1967, singer and actress Barbra Streisand forgot the lyrics to a song during a concert in Central Park in front of about 135,000 people.  The experience triggered severe stage fright and anxiety. After that night she stopped performing live concerts almost entirely.

For 27 years, despite being one of the most famous performers in the world, she avoided live performances because of the fear of forgetting lyrics again.

Then in 1994, she decided to face the fear directly and returned to the concert stage in Las Vegas and later on a worldwide tour. The tour became one of the highest-grossing concert tours of the decade.  Streisand later explained what the experience taught her:

“I had stage fright for 27 years… I just had to face the fear”.

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Burnout specialist Marni Wandner spoke to my music mental health class at NYU last week – saying burnout isn’t just about working too hard. It happens when the work you’re doing doesn’t line up with your values, your energy, or the environment you’re working in.

Her approach helps people step back, understand their stress patterns, and build healthier habits so they can succeed over the long-term instead of pushing themselves until they crash. The goal is to perform at a high level without sacrificing health, balance, or well-being.

“Burnout isn’t when the lights go out. It’s when you stop noticing they’re dimming.” — Marni Wandner

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In the past few months, multiple mental-health researchers have renewed attention on something surprisingly simple: spending time outside significantly lowers stress and improves mood.

A growing body of research shows that even 20 minutes in nature can lower cortisol levels and improve focus.

… “just a twenty-minute nature experience was enough to significantly reduce cortisol levels.” (University of Michigan).

… “Spending just 20 minutes connecting with nature can help lower stress hormone levels.” (Harvard Health).

Employers and therapists are now recommending “nature breaks” the same way they once recommended coffee breaks.  In an age of screens, algorithms and AI — the antidote might be something ancient: sunlight, fresh air and quiet.

The cheapest mental health treatment in America might be a walk outside.

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It’s another inspiring trend emerging in the past year across many industries from journalism to healthcare to technology — professionals in their 40s and 50s are increasingly returning to school, learning new skills, or launching entirely new careers after layoffs or burnout.

Today an average worker may experience three or four careers in a lifetime – not just one.

Instead of viewing change as failure, many are reframing it as growth.

The future rarely unfolds in a straight line.  Sometimes the most hopeful moment in life is when you start over.

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”  — C.S. Lewis

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Alysa Liu at age 16 was washed up or so it seemed.  She was a phenom who felt completely burned out, finishing 6th at the 2022 Olympics. And then she did something terrifying for a world-class athlete: she stepped away entirely. Many assumed her career was over.

Two years of self-reflection and healing later, she returned to the ice in the 2026 Winter Olympics in Milan winning the Gold Medal and ending a 24-year drought for U.S. women’s figure skating.

Her story proves that stepping back to find yourself isn’t “quitting”—it’s often a powerful  way to come back stronger.

She spoke openly about how her confidence this time didn’t come from being perfect, but from being authentic. As she put it after her win, “My program is fun and I feel really confident… I want to be a storyteller.”

She had to rebuild her belief in herself jump by jump over the last two years.

“I didn’t let anyone else tell me what to do or how to feel. I just did what felt right for me, and that’s why I’m here.”

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Lindsey Vonn risked it all for one more chance to cement her legacy and go for the gold at the recent Winter Olympics in Milan – not that she needed to as the most successful female downhill ski racer in history.

Vonn felt she was forced out of the sport in 2019 by pain rather than choice. The 2026 Games offered a chance to say goodbye while actually feeling like herself again. At 41, she wanted to prove that a “bionic” athlete with titanium implants could still compete at the highest level.

The gamble ended in a harrowing crash a few weeks ago. The impact was so severe that she suffered devasting injuries and nearly lost her leg to amputation.

Despite it all, Vonn spoke “champion wisdom” from her hospital bed – a thought everyone especially young people and those nurturing a comeback in confidence would value:

“…just getting to the start line was the victory.”

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Apple CEO Tim Cook gives kudos to his predecessor and company founder Steve Jobs for helping him to think differently which I caught recently in Fortune.

“… skills, like the importance of being able to evolve from past beliefs—a trait he said few leaders actually possess. Cook explained that Jobs valued people who could admit they were wrong, encouraged lively debate, and enjoyed being challenged by other workers.

Yet Steve Jobs was famously uncompromising, but his perspective on “being wrong” was deeply tied to his commitment to results over ego.

Cook says “He would flip on a dime … I’ve never seen anyone with a greater capacity to change his mind than Steve.”

In Jobs’ own words”:  “I don’t mind being wrong. And I’ll admit that I’m wrong a lot. It doesn’t matter to me too much. What matters to me is that we do the right thing.“

Imagine if we transformed being wrong from a sign of weakness into an advantage.

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The Washington Post interviewed Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University of California at Riverside, and relationship expert Harry Reis, a psychologist at the University of Rochester, about their recently published book, How to Feel Loved and it turns out showing your other side is critical.

We think that to be loved, to feel loved, we need to make ourselves more lovable: “I just need to show them how wonderful I am and hide my shortcomings.” And that’s actually not what works.

To feel love, you need to be known and also know the other. And so if I’m only showing the tips of my whole self, just the positive part, I’m not going to be known. And if you don’t really know me, I’ll never really feel loved by you, because I’ll always wonder, “If you really knew me, would you still love me?

As author Brene Brown puts it “True belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

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Apple founder Steve Jobs wouldn’t let his kids use an iPad (that his company invented) and that “We limit how much technology our kids use at home.”

YouTube cofounder Steve Chen he wouldn’t want his kids consuming only short-form content” because it equates with shorter attention spans.

Microsoft’s Bill Gates, Snap’s Evan Spiegel, and Tesla’s Elon Musk say they limit  their children’s access to devices. The Gates children had to wait until 14 before getting a phone and they banned phones at the dinner table entirely.

Children in the U.S 8 to 18 spend seven and a half  hours a day watching or using screens.

The life of a parent can be difficult but even the folks who fed the digital revolution protected their children from its addictive downsides.

But there is good news rising: 94% of university students now say they want to reduce their phone usage to improve mental health and grades. 70% of adults under 30 are cutting back.  Students who successfully cut screen time in half (from 5 hours to 2.5 hours) saw an improvement in attention spans equivalent to reversing 10 years of age-related decline.

Even current Apple CEO Tim Cook agrees:  “I’m convinced that the more we value our time and our attention, the more we will realize that they are our most precious resources.”

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Euphoria and Grey’s Anatomy Actor Eric Dane died last week of ALS.  In a posthumous Famous Last Wordsepisode, he spoke directly into the camera with words intended for his daughters, Billie and Georgia.

He admitted to wasting years “wallowing and worrying in self-pity, shame, and doubt,” and noted that ALS stripped away the ability to obsess over the future or the past.

He reminisced about watching his daughters play in the ocean in Santa Monica and Hawaii, calling those moments “heaven.”  He used this to illustrate that happiness isn’t a destination, but the quiet moments of presence he previously overlooked.

He left his daughters with four core pieces of advice, the first of which was a directive to “stay grounded in the present moment, because it is the only place where life actually happens”.

And ended with “This disease is slowly taking my body, but it will never take my spirit… I hope I’ve demonstrated that you can face anything. You can face the end of your days. You can face hell with dignity. Fight, girls, and hold your heads high.”

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