As I have said previously the first few years of life pretty much govern a person’s adult years that follow.

In other words, we are often set in our ways as young children.

So why is it that psychologists and psychiatrist’s offices are packed with patients who often have long-term and very expensive relationships in an effort to change?

If the conundrum is we are predisposed to our behavior good or bad as children, how can we change and grow in a meaningful way as adults?

The answer is choice.

People who bring about change make choices – lots of them every day and sometimes on the very same topics.

One friend of mine has been on the wagon for decades – a choice he made every minute of every day.  And I know another person who succumbed to the disease and lost her life relatively young.

Others come from dysfunctional families (they say all families are dysfunctional more or less) where they have to battle with hurtful things from their families of origin every day of their lives.

The power of choice is that we can will change in real time by saying “for the rest of this day I will choose to  …”.   It has a time stamp on it – good for a short period of time that will have to be renewed again and again.

Mother Teresa became a saint in the Catholic Church but what I discovered in researching my book was that she did not always have faith because there were days she couldn’t believe in a God that would allow the awful conditions that affected the Lepers she served.

Mother Teresa made a choice to believe.

For the rest of us, wanting to change is nice but it is not enough.

Making choices in real time day after day – that’s change you can really count on.

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