Rejecting another – publicly or privately – is a devastating way to bully and shame a person.

To be on the receiving end of such rejection is tough to deal with.  People use the tactic to control others and often it works because rejection or even the fear of it makes us codependent to the abuser.

Ask how this rejection makes you feel badly.

Here are a few common rejections with workarounds attached.

• A broken relationship might suggest not feeling lovable (Accentuate the strengths you know you have and take this as a sign that the right person is also out there waiting to meet you because they probably are).
• Having an idea dismissed without any consideration, may make you feel stupid (Put a stop/loss on letting other people grade your intellect immediately).
• Leaving you out of a group that you want to be in could suggest you’re not worthy of friendship (Seek out another group and prove to yourself that this is not true).
• Not getting credit at work for something you earned can leave you feeling cheated out of that which is yours (Collect your accomplishments in a place where you can review them as often as necessary. Someone can take away the credit but don’t ever let them take away the accomplishment).
• Getting laid off may make you feel unnecessary (Make feeling useful and important the number one thing you look for in your next job – not money alone).

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