A co-worker always seems to oppose your ideas and suggestions.

A spouse hates it when you get your way all the time – or so they think.

A child refuses to do that which you ask them and has to be forced to do it.

These things have never happened to you, right?

Of course they have unless you know the formula for winning the enthusiastic cooperation of others.

1.  Create a win-win by responding to ideas and suggestions instead of reacting to them.  Reacting can be more emotional.  Responding is a means of first letting the other party know you’re first listening.  Great with co-workers.

2.  Make the other person think the idea is his or hers.  Believe it or not, when you give up control of “idea” ownership, others buy in to what you are suggesting.  Effective with everybody especially those close to us.

3.  Begin by asking the other person for their ideas and suggestions before asking them to respond to your call to action.  Try this with a child next time you ask them to clean their room or do something for you.

People don’t just hand us their cooperation.  We have to earn it.

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