Don’t bother.

It cannot be done.

All it can do is make the person who wants to change another about as miserable as they can be.

Do this for a week, you’ll be miserable for a week.

Try to change someone for a lifetime – be miserable for that long.

There is something in the human condition – if we really want to be honest about it – that makes us want to change people to a way that we find more acceptable.

Don’t do it.

They won’t change and you won’t succeed.

A better use of time is to change the one person who can improve, adapt and modify behavior and that is – you.

It’s a proven fact that changing others is a dead end pursuit.

But changing the way you deal with people who bother you for one reason or the other is emancipating.

If someone is so self-centered you cannot stand it, you’re not going to change them.  But if you say, every time that person grates on my nerves, I’m going to remind myself not to be that way.

If someone is always late, you change the time you want to meet earlier if at all possible.  If not, get there before them and pat yourself on the back for being prompt.

If someone is not considerate of your feelings, do you really think you’re going to fix that?  Ah, but giving them less access to your feelings is a much more efficient way of not winding up hurt.

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