Sometimes it feels like with each new day, we’re facing the same old problems.  But actually, many times we chip away with solutions or workarounds and still feel like we’re getting nowhere.

One reason is that people actually are pretty good at eventually dealing with their life’s challenges – what they (I should say, we) do not do really well with is moving on.  I have friends struggling with separation and marital issues who are making real progress but going back and sawing sawdust, as Dale Carnegie would call it, creating a major problem.

We can’t heal while replaying the same story in our heads. As Fr. Martin Padovani says, “Emotions themselves aren’t the problem — it’s what we do with them that keeps us stuck.” Moving on means forgiving ourselves and others, accepting that what’s done is done, and redirecting that energy toward something new. It’s not denial; it’s release. The future won’t look different until we stop staring at the rearview mirror.

Ian Morgan Cron says “When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say.”

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