We humans are tough – on ourselves.

Psychologist Tim Pychyl (Carleton University in Ottawa) and his procrastination research show people consistently misjudge their own progress by comparing themselves to imagined or idealized versions of themselves — not reality.

A 2020 study in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin finds people systematically overestimate how far behind others they are because they see only their own struggles but only others’ outcomes.

People feel “behind” because they compare their messy reality to everyone else’s highlight reel — a psychological distortion proven in multiple studies.

Or as Teddy Roosevelt said “Comparison is the thief of joy.”

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