In baseball, when a pitcher gives up a grand slam home run, it’s tough to come back next inning and fight for those runs back.

In life, when we get a rude awakening from someone who disappoints us, what often follows is depression, pity and the inability to rebound.  This is understandable but it is not the answer.

Your mate has found another – maybe there is someone else waiting to meet me. Some day I will thank you for choosing someone else.

Your employer is going to lay you off – After all I did for this company, really?  I probably would have stayed too long and missed my next opportunity for success so thank you for letting me go.

A friend betrays you — I’m devastated.  We were so close.  I feel so raw.  But true friends protect and do not hurt.  Maybe you’ve opened my mind so that I can recognize a real true friend in the future.

What do these three responses have in common?

Acceptance of the hurt that comes from disappointment.

A positive outcome projected for the future.

No animosity.

Gratitude.

Suffering is transformational.  It makes us better.

But when we approach disappointment like this we coincidentally reduce the duration of suffering.

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