Young people especially are focused on fitting in, gaining the respect of others and appearing to be friendly – I see this all the time in classrooms.

The way to get there is not so much changing yourself or adapting to peer groups as much as it is something we rarely think about.

People judge you by the way you make them feel.

Not by how we feel or what we say or do to fit in.

Ironically Dale Carnegie who is now must reading in my college courses always said that the best conversationalist is the person who asks the most questions and does the least talking.

The human condition is that it is hard not to like someone who makes us feel good about who we are.