While speaking to a class of college students, one young man who coveted a career as a musician, asked me “When is it time to give up on your dream?”.

Apparently his father, a college math professor, wanted him to have a career with a more substantial and predictable income stream.  A valid thought for a parent, for sure.

However my answer was: never stop chasing your dream.

But, he replied, “How do I make a living?”

I cautioned not to confuse making a living with following your dream.  Sometimes they are the same.  Sometimes they are not.

As long as we live on this earth and have the ability, why would we knowingly decide to throw our hands up and stop going after that which ignited our passions.

No employer, no mate, no friend, no enemy has the right to prevent us from chasing our dreams. 

Because today’s dreams are tomorrow’s accomplishments.

Dreams help enhance our self-esteem.

And perhaps more importantly, our dreams today lead us on the next great adventure tomorrow.

Say it – display it – embrace it.

“You have to speak your dream out loud” – Kelly Corrigan

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If you watched any of golf’s Masters Championship recently, perhaps what occurred to me occurred to you.

How awful it must feel to work so hard to compete in this major event and lose.

The same feeling emerges when a politician we support loses an election, when we fail to get the promotion we have worked so hard to get and so on.

Dealing with disappointment is major because we are disappointed so much.

No one plays to lose, but too few of us play to win because we played.

Participating in The Masters — check off, well done.

Running an election campaign – check success.

Working hard for a promotion that eludes us – chalk one up for being a hard worker who will soon not be denied.

The problem with losing is that we make it worse in our minds than it really is.  Not everyone can win a golf tournament.  Only one person may.

Where did we get the idea that we have the right to be disappointed for more than 24 hours and that’s the special rule I want to share with you this morning.

I allow myself 24 hours to be human and be disappointed – to sleep it off and start over again the next day.

Then resurrect all the good things we’ve done short of getting all that we wanted.

It’s true that to win tomorrow we have to lose today – and build our self-esteem rather than diminish it.

“Anytime you suffer a setback or disappointment, put your head down and plow ahead” – Les Brown.

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The movie critic Roger Ebert was being remembered last week when he died for all that he accomplished in journalism, television, speaking and digital media.

Ebert embraced the computer as his ability to speak was compromised by cancer that left him with the removal of his chin.

Beyond battling all that, what touched me that I want to share with you this morning is two lessons in living that are invaluable.

When he criticized the film “Brown Bunny” at the Cannes Film festival, the movie’s director skewered Ebert in return in vulgar terms.  But when Ebert saw a recut of the film, he praised the film.

Lesson one:  be gracious enough to offer praise and honest appreciation even in light of bad blood that may have developed between you and others.

Then when Ebert trashed “Deuce Bigalow: European Gigolo”, he later admitted that star Rob Schneider had sent him get well flowers and a card upon learning of his illness.

Roger said, “although Rob Schneider might in my opinion have made a bad movie, he is not a bad man, and no doubt tried to make a wonderful movie and hopes to try again.”

Lesson two:  see good in others even when you may be critical of them.

The best way to remember someone who has passed away that left a heritage of some sort is to give renewed life to their good traits and let the departed live on through us.

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When adversity hits us or someone close to us, it is human to say “Why me?”.

In 1987 when famed Mouseketeer Annette Funicello, who died recently, found out that she had multiple sclerosis she saw the illness as a calling to help raise money to fight the disease.  She raised millions through her fame and misfortune by establishing the Annette Funicello Fund for Neurological Diseases.

But it doesn’t take starting a fund to work through adversity.

Women with breast cancer often volunteer their services to help others affected by the disease.  I know of one woman who for years made wigs for breast cancer patients undergoing chemotherapy.

Disease, accidents and misfortune are not on our wish list for sure but often adopting a “can-do” attitude about fighting back not only helps the patient but those around them as well.

It gives life a more defined meaning and a healthy perspective when dealing with misfortune.

“Cancer didn’t bring me to my knees, it brought me to my feet.” 
~ Michael Douglas

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One of the best things about constant contact with others on our mobile devices is that we can easily converse with more people and faster than ever before.

One of the worst things is that we can easily converse with more people and faster than ever before.

We seem to know what to do with spam and unwanted email.  There are programs that will shut these things down.  After all, email looks more and more like junk mail – the kind the postal service delivers.

But when it comes to work, our friends, family and new family (Facebook friends and virtual buddies), email is becoming a drain as well as a pain.

Some ideas I’ve adopted seem to help:

1. Everyone who takes the time to write to me gets a timely response – and happily because as you’ll see prioritizing email responses allows for better, more meaningful communication.
2. In an age of Twitter and texting, aim for short responses that are as succinct and meaningful as the best tweets.  It works for email.
3. Manage digital communications with you in control.  That is, a phone call is a tool for talking to some people, as texting is a way to reach others.  There are many tools that add up to communication.
4. If someone invests a lot of time to write a long email, invest a lot of time to return a meaningful (not necessarily long) response.

Life is stressful and constant contact makes us more stressful.

See these things as tools and not burdens.

You didn’t have to answer the phone 10 years ago and you don’t have to communicate with anyone that isn’t worth a thoughtful succinct response.

Email is becoming outdated because texting and Twitter are tools that many find more useful.  Whatever works, reduce social stress by taking charge of your digital life and using the tools that we all share more effectively.

“I don’t believe in email.  I’m an old-fashioned girl.  I prefer calling and hanging up” – Sarah Jessica Parker

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For many of us our daily routine is a stressful reminder that we often juggle responsibilities, work hard to pay the bills, deal with rising expenses and handle family and relationship problems that often sap our energy and optimism.

William James said, “The greatest use of a life is to spend it on something that will outlast it”.

What a great sentiment.

To be thought of for something worthwhile.

It can relate to our families, our careers, relationships and civic pursuits.  Often we’re motivated but life gets in the way.

Turn it around today.

Along with the necessities of life, make a one sentence vow that includes how you want to be thought of – what you’d like to contribute.  To not have this important sentences on your smartphone or a piece of paper is like driving without a roadmap.

One sentence.

I want to be thought of as a great friend.  Or a helper of those less fortunate.  Or a motivator.  A mother.  A dad.  A person who inspires others at work.  You get the idea.

Why live life another day without this simple roadmap to happiness and it starts with a sentence that keeps you on target even when daily living takes us places we don’t want to go.

“To achieve great things, two things are needed: a plan and not quite enough time.”  — Leonard Bernstein

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Some think it is luck.

Some say successful people have a drive that is so strong that they are willing to roll over anybody or anything to get what they want.

Sorry to disappoint, but most successful people in this world whether that is measured by money or the happiness from personal achievement know that the unspoken secret of success is exceeding expectations.

A 23-year old at their first real job can rise up fast if they exceed – not just meet – the expectations of those who hired them.

But it’s not just how much you make or what others think, it’s about personal satisfaction and accomplishment.  A person may make an average salary but have an above average life because they exceed their own expectations and that of those around them.

I know many teachers in this category.  You may be able to think of others.

And the best way to exceed expectations and become successful is to try harder.

One of my favorite chapters in my book is about The Ted Williams Principle – the baseball great who was the last person to hit for a batting average of over .400 in a single season.

His manager was ready to let him sit out the last game of the season to guarantee that he’d make the grade.  Had Williams gone hitless that day, it would have driven his batting average for the year down to under .400.

William refused to stay out of the lineup and played that day – getting additional hits to solidify his modern day record of .406.

So to exceed expectations personally and those of others, bat 1.000 trying harder.

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The things that we imagine in life are often worse than what is stressing us out.

Scientists know that whatever we imagine our brains already experience as if it has happened.

Imagine you’re going to get fired and even if you don’t, the brain has already processed it as the stress of being fired.

Fear a lost relationship?

Done deal as far as the brain is concerned.

There is no arguing that there are many, many things that can reduce stress in our lives from massages to medication, but one powerful way to get stress under control is to realize that what we fear – what stresses us out – will most likely never happen (or won’t happen with the severity we fear).

But the baggage it leaves behind hurts more than what actually happens.

The researcher Amit Sood refers us to the wisdom of Mark Twain who said:  “I have been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened”.

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Now that Tiger Woods is back on top and back in love, Nike, the company that stuck with him through his self-induced infidelity meltdown, is doubling down with an edge.

Nike’s new social media ad features a quote that says: “Winning takes care of everything” along side a picture of Woods sizing up a putt.  Woods is fond of saying that exact phrase.

But there has been somewhat of an uproar over the attitude of this ad as a poor example to children for winning at all costs.  And that disregarding morals seems to be legitimate if in the end you win.

Nike likes to do these types of ads and taken in that context you can make an argument for their effectiveness.

But the real message that winning takes care of everything is not really as offensive as it is just plain wrong.

It’s actually the other way around.

Losing and learning to grow through adversity is exactly the ticket to success.

No one bats 1.000 but dealing with adversity makes us better.  It’s about times at bat.

So a better message, albeit it less edgy is “winning takes care of losing if you grow because of it”.

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There was a recent article in USA Today about how some members of Generation X is hoping retire before they hit 40.

Used to be that retiring at 55 was considered early.

Being financially independent at 40 is a great goal.  Walking away from work and ambition at that age is a killer.

In fact, age has nothing to do with retirement except for economic and health matters.  What’s the first thing a lottery winner does if he or she is smart?

Keep their job.

They’ve got plenty of money but they also need plenty of life and life is like a book with many chapters.  Turning the page is an adventure.  And if you’ve got the financial situation going for you, there are a lot of exciting pages that can be turned.

The Wall Street Journal had a piece recently about the new era retirement communities with lavish pools and clubhouses.  In the article a source said that builders would never sell a single retirement home without first showing a clubhouse because the clubhouse is the dream.

So if that’s your goal, go for it.

But if you want to set your own hours, pursue another dream and thrive on accomplishments – aspire, don’t retire.

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