You go up to bat, take a few swings, try to get on base and if you don’t, you think about taking another shot at it next time up.

If you allow it to bother you, you could get into a slump.

If you try to get a hit every time at bat, you will never feel good about yourself because it is impossible.

A .250 hitter can earn millions.

Anticipate the next at-bat and try again.

Learn from mistakes.

Practice with a purpose.

Hope for a hit but don’t be discouraged by a miss.

Isn’t this also the game plan for a successful life?

They become more anxious and possibly become more depressed when their owners overuse their phones.

Philly veterinarian Dr. Alexander Collada explains it:

“Dogs do read body language, they read our eye contact … They read our facial expressions, so if we are on our phone and acting disinterested, and they’re looking for attention, it basically is ignoring your dog.”

Imagine how people feel.

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The evidence is in and multitasking is a myth.

You’re not smarter, more efficient or more productive by trying to do more than one thing simultaneously.

Overthink.  Overdo.  Add to the anxiety.

If this hasn’t become apparent, it soon will.

One step at a time.  One thing at a time.  Important stuff first.

The new reality is that it may actually be better not to do everything we can but to decide what few things we can do better.

More important than doing is deciding.

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It’s remarkable how easily most folks can rattle off what’s wrong with them but have a harder time articulating what’s good and right.

When we hang around more positive people, we become more positive but that is not always possible – in fact, sadly sometimes our negativity comes from families.

Another way to look at things is to balance off every negative thought with a positive one.

I didn’t get the job, but I did a good interview.

I wasn’t able to help my dear friend, but I was there for her.

I spend too much time working, but when I am home I am laser focused in the present. 

There is something positive out of every negative but is today the day we start looking for it?

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That is a quote from John Diamond.

October is breast cancer awareness month – a disease that affects millions of loved ones each year and thousands of men.

Here is more inspiration from the mouths of survivors.

• “Once I overcame breast cancer, I wasn’t afraid of anything anymore.” — Melissa Etheridge
• “It’s about focusing on the fight, not the fright.” — Robin Roberts
• “And if it comes back, I’ll keep fighting.” — Nicole Kramer
• “The only person who can save you is you.” — Sheryl Crow
• “Breast cancer changes you, and the change can be beautiful.” — Jane Cook

Cancer surviors earn the gift of living life to the fullest by turning adversity into gratitude.

Perhaps you heard that Houston Rockets player Russell Westbrook left an $8,000 tip to the Disney hotel staff that has been helping NBA teams continue to play basketball safely in the bubble.

Other players likely left tips as well just not as large.

Westbrook’s got the money, but he’s also got the generosity because it doesn’t take a high figure talent to show gratitude.

And it doesn’t always take money.

A note, a word and a gift if you can afford it goes a long way to making others feel appreciated.

It’s a way of putting words into action and it’s a real-time reminder that as much as the tip was, the gratitude will be felt forever.

David Lee Roth thought he was the band but Eddie Van Halen turned out to be the indispensable one.

Sammy Hagar replaced Roth and the band played on.

But before the lockdown the talented Hagar was playing to smaller crowds.

People need people.

Even really talented people.

Sometimes the magic is made by collaboration – few have the abilty to continue on while changing parts as Van Halen did.

It’s a testimony to the iconic Van Halen upon his death but also a reminder that there’s talent and there is magic.

And ego has nothing to do with making it.

Why are we so caught up in the way others think about us or worse yet what we think others think of us?

“No judging” applies to the way we see ourselves, too.

Who we want to be and how are we living up to it at any given moment.

If the actor is concerned with how the audience perceives them, then they are distracted from what really matters – giving the best performance.

You don’t judge your time in the marathon by how fast the winner completed the course, but by your best time.

The same is true in every area of life.

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It’s not necessarily a balance of work and life, but a keen appreciation.

Not the number of hours you spend, but the time focused on things and people that are important to you.

Becoming a better parent, spouse or employee does not come down to how much time you spend but what you do with the time you have.

“Remember to look up at the stars and not down at your feet. Never give up work. Work gives you meaning and purpose and life is empty without it. If you are lucky enough to find love, remember it is there and don’t throw it away.”  — Stephen Hawking

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“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” —  Maya Angelou 

You can decide to live with it or to walk away.

The ultimate power is in the hands of the person whose feelings are hurt not those of the abuser.

A new study confirms it and backs it up with scientific answers.

If you believe you have it within your power to control your happiness, you can.

The happiest people don’t wait around for luck to make them feel better, they find ways to turn adversity into success.

It comes down to prioritizing what can be controlled and what cannot.

Here are the results of the Tracking Happiness study.

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Psychologists have discovered a significant increase in Google searches for anxiety, panic attacks and treatments for panic attacks.

A Tulanne University study indicates that this may just be the tip of the iceberg.

There are many ways to deal with panic and anxiety when they occur but eliminating the episodes requires changing the way panic prone people look at things.

I recommend to my NYU music business students to read the best book ever written on the fear and worry that drives panic attacks – How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie.

Here’s a crib sheet.

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The new and updated age for career burnout is a startlingly young 32.

That’s right, by 32 the angst, pressure and expectations that make us crazy now burn us out when we should be just getting started.

Trying to do too much, working long hours, “always on” no way to disconnect, pressure to overwork and the coronavirus (59% said they have started to work more hours).

59% of Gen Z is burned out from their “always-on” work culture according to a study commissioned by The Office Group and conducted by OnePoll.

No one is going to help you – it’s personal.

The only way to regain the balance is to put personal goals up there with other A1 business priorities.

It is just as important to make a life as it is to make a living.

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“If you win right away you will never know was it just a fluke or luck or were you brilliant” – Maria Konnikova

The earlier you act, the less information you have.

And stumbling along the way has its benefits because it offers information that success doesn’t offer.

Victory is mistakenly the goal but what the road that leads you to succeed guarantees you will know how to preserve your success.

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When things go well, they seem to keep going well without much effort.

Confidence breeds more success.

And when it doesn’t, it seems like we will never get off the schneid.

Losing becomes easier during a losing streak.

The only attitude that transcends the ups and downs of life is anticipating the next chance to succeed.

A football player who drops a pass doesn’t fear the next throw – in fact, they want to get the ball immediately expecting to catch it.

In life, a next up mentality factors out luck.

You’re down in the ninth inning and rally to win.

You’re down in the ninth, rally and lose but feel you could have won.

Down in the ninth, no rally but you learn a tough lesson for next time.

You never give up because you know in your heart that winning is a percentage of times at bat.

Optimism is a deep-seated belief that if you take enough swings, you’ll get enough hits.

Dominic Thiem was the first man in 70 years to come back two sets down in the U.S. Open to win a five-set match and become this year’s singles tennis champion.

In his acceptance speech Thiem hardly spent any time talking about himself.  He elevated the loser and in doing so himself and those who witnessed it.

Proving once again that we have accomplished nothing until we can show sincere gratitude for both our opponents as well as those who help us.

Watch this clip for lesson one.

There’s good luck and then there’s bad.

Factoring in either one is a waste of time.

Both good luck and bad luck can upend what we anticipate or present new opportunities and challenges.

You don’t wait to win the lottery or lose your job.

Luck is always a factor in anything we do but making your own luck is a better bet.

Failure itself is less to blame than the fear of failure.

In sports, when a team has a seemingly insurmountable lead, they play with confidence expecting the eventual win.

Individuals are far more complex.

Starting is a problem.  Many great ideas and wonderful opportunities are missed because fear of not succeeding is a hindrance.

The best way to overcome fear of failure is to change the way you think about it – see it as an opportunity to learn not as a vote on you and your value.

A ballplayer who hits .250 is failing 75% of the time but you can be sure they look forward to their next at-bat 100% of the time.

Canine Cottages fitted some dogs with heart rate monitors to discern what makes their tails wag in happiness.

They found a dog’s heart rate increases by 46% when they hear the words “I love you” from their owners.

And that dogs’ heart rates calmed down by 23% while being cuddled.

Expressing human emotions has never been more crucial than in our world of click, scroll and send so words of endearment can be powerful ways to make others happy.