It may feel good. It may be irresistible but it is a total waste of time.
Letting go brings greater benefits.
The damage is done, why continue to waste your time getting back at someone who hurt you.
Not one minute of time spent on getting even is worth it.
The winner is the person who escapes.
Confucius said “To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.”
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Anyone can make a big thing of their successes – it feels good and is well earned.
But real gains come from learning from your failures – the big ones, the disappointments, even the little irritations.
This is why I tell my college students …
Show me a person who has failed several times and who is sticking with it and I will show you the next success. Bet on them!
Hitting it out of the park feels great, but learning from mistakes with an attitude of anticipation and confidence usually pays off bigger returns.
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Get out of your own head and bring a smile to someone else.
Think every day how you can please someone else – bring a smile to their face, make them happy, lift them up.
In doing so, you will be curing the blues and improving your mood.
The more we obsess, the worse it gets.
The more we focus on uplifting others, the happier we are.
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That’s the title of a current hit song called “Truth Hurts” by the artist Lizzo.
It’s not about texting but makes a great point about it.
Tell it straight to my face.
That’s a workaround for spending too much time on our digital devices.
Look for opportunities to not text and say it face-to-face or at least with the benefit of the receiver hearing your voice.
No one wants to give up their digital life, but there are ways to keep it real by looking for opportunities to tell it straight to someone’s face.
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I wanted to be in television so badly I sent audition tapes to the three major network affiliates in Philadelphia for years to no avail.
Not once did I get a rejection letter or a letter even acknowledging my tapes.
But the gift in not getting what I wanted was that it continually showed me how badly I wanted to work on the air in television – so I continued.
One day, year’s later my tape happened to arrive on the desk of the program director of the ABC affiliate and he picked up the phone and called me.
“It’s just a two-day gig. Nothing more. You’ll be a booth announcer”.
Once I got my foot in the door, well – you know what happened then.
Not getting what I wanted taught me how badly I wanted it and drove me to continue pursuit of my dream.
Had I become discouraged, I would have learned I was less motivated.
The question is: how badly do you want it?
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One, ask what’s the worst thing that could happen.
Two, get prepared to accept the worst.
Three, change it if you can.
99% of the time what we fear never happens and 1% of the time it doesn’t happen the way we fear.
Is that worth all the pain and suffering from worry?
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Openness and empowerment are two qualities that people cannot resist.
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Every day is the beginning of a new chapter in your life.
No need to hang onto the past with all its worries or fears.
No need to fear the future that hasn’t happened yet.
Breaking life into one day at a time helps to rejuvenate us and free us from the shackles that have been holding us back the previous day.
New chapter, new opportunity.
Instead of walking around with the cumulative effect of everything that may have gone wrong or worried us, start each new day fresh – with a clean canvass – upon which to create a better day today.
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90% of what happens to us every day is good.
10% of it is bad.
Yet we spend 90% of our time focusing on that 10%.
To guarantee a more positive attitude, focus the majority of your day on the 90% of the things that happen that are good.
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We can’t.
But few among us don’t fritter away wasted time trying.
The sure way to an unhappy life is to try to change another person.
Accept them with what you perceive as flaws and all and help them without being judgmental or with a goal to transform them because in the end no human has ever permanently changed another person – not with power over them, money or influence.
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