Today, assume everyone you work with will go on to be equally or more successful than you.
Assume you will work for them some day.
This is the formula of mutual respect that brings the best out of people, eliminates needless judging and avoids the urge to dismiss others who have yet to gain prominence.
Think the best about people because it is in your best interest.
“When you’re living for the approval of strangers, and that is where you derive all of your joy and fulfillment, one bad thing can cause everything to crumble…when people decided I was wicked and evil and conniving and not a good person, that was the one I couldn’t bounce back from because my whole life was centered around it” – Taylor Swift
Your life is not an election.
No need to campaign for consensus.
Lead and let others follow.
One billion dollars was the estimated total of betting in states that allow it for this year’s Super Bowl.
State and local lotteries attract almost $30 billion on the chance each year.
The odds of winning the Mega Millions lottery are slightly worse than Powerball at 1 in 302.6 million.
This is not about betting – it’s about how quickly most folks are to defy the odds for a chance to be a winner.
Yet on a personal level, many have a hard time betting on their own chances to succeed in various areas of their lives.
My longtime friend John Parikhal inspired this morning’s thought that I’d like to share.
The great football coach Vince Lombardi went against the grain of coaching of his time.
Most coaches showed players the things they had done wrong in game films – and even today most still do.
Vince Lombardi only showed them what they had done right.
He knew that they would focus on replicating the right moves rather than trying to avoid the wrong ones.
The more we emphasize what’s wrong, the harder it is to get to what’s right.
For decades it was widely thought that it took at least 30 days to create a new habit.
There’s more recent research from a 2009 study that indicates it can take anywhere from 18 to 254 days which is either less time than previously thought or almost the better part of a year.
Here’s a better metric.
If you don’t start now, the time to effect a change will be infinite because change is not possible until a commitment is made to look at things differently, come up with a workable plan and persevere until a new habit is achieved.
In other words, it’s not how long it takes but how much longing you have to change things.
With less than a week until the next Super Bowl between the Eagles and Chiefs, there’s another playbook that fans could consult.
In sports, two teams show up with the intention of winning but people often show up to work or whatever else matters with some question as to whether they will succeed.
That’s never a question in sports.
When one team wins, they enjoy their victories endlessly — for the rest of us, when we have a success, we often move on too quickly shortcutting the “celebration”.
The loser in sports licks their wounds, learns from their mistakes but can hardly wait to play another day for a chance to win the next time – but we often get stuck in disappointment, overlook the lessons adversity can teach us and fail to have that eager anticipation to try again in the future.
The Super Bowl of psychology is always bet on yourself.
Showing kindness towards others actually works wonders on anxiety and depression according to a new study.
Did you really need a study to know that? Probably not.
We get caught in our own problems AND the issues, fears and worries of others that bring us down.
How does doing acts of kindness for others help us?
It gets our mind off of our problems, furthers connections with others which has been proven to relieve depression.
Big or small acts that benefit others or make others happy.
Philadelphia Flyers head coach John Tortorella ordered the removal of iPads on the bench typical used by players to view their shift on the ice.
Why?
He wants the players to focus more on what they will do the next time they jump on the ice, not looking at the last one.
It seems to have worked as the team which has struggled all season is winning more than losing at midpoint with the removal of iPads.
I emphasize to my NYU students, our digital devices exist to serve us and there are times when we do better focusing our attention on the next task up rather than getting caught up in the past.
In Philly, there was a man named Les Waas who formed the Procrastinators Club just for fun and celebrated all the holiday months after they occurred much to the delight of members of the local media – me included.
Waas wouldn’t like the study I saw the other day that says there is a way to fix procrastination, the delay or postponement of action either because the task is too big or we’re not ready to do it.
The answer: short-term rewards
Research shows lesser but more frequently rewards for working on our tasks gets better results than waiting until it is finished even if the final reward is bigger and more attractive.
It doesn’t work – studies show those who multitasked during cognitive tasks experienced an IQ decline similar to being up all night without sleep.
And The Cleveland Clinic says multitasking doesn’t work because when our brain bounces from task to task we become less efficient.
Only 2.5% of us can effectively multitask.
We already know what it’s like to feel slammed all the time.
Now we know that taking on more than we can handle only makes it worse.
But wait, there’s hope.
Multitasking by doing a cognitive task while also enjoying a passive experience such as simultaneously listening to music is fine.